"Sure, bring anyone"
You post the plan to a big group. The first people to answer are the loudest. Somebody adds three friends. Somebody else asks if it is okay to bring a plus-one, or whether it is suitable for complete beginners, or who else is coming.
You are the host, so you say yes. It is easier than saying no. Then the plan is not quite what you had in mind, and you are the one who made it.
Open invitations are friendly. They also hand the shape of the plan to whoever answers first.
What actually goes wrong
- You do not know who is coming until they turn up.
- Saying no is awkward, so you say yes.
- The group changes character when the mix is not what you planned.
- Spots go to whoever types fastest, not to whoever is a good fit.
How it works on Sociogram
When you create an activity, you choose every time whether it is public or private. For a public one, you then choose how people join:
- Open to all. People are in straight away.
- By request. People tap Ask to join, and you decide.
On a by-request activity:
- A person asks. They see Requested until you decide.
- You see each request on the activity page. Tap Approve or Decline, one person at a time.
- They are told either way. Approved people are in. Declined people are told too.
- You can approve until the activity ends, which helps with activities that run over several days. You cannot approve once every spot is taken.
If you change your mind about someone who is already in, you can remove them from the going list until the activity ends. They are told, and they can ask again later unless you block them.
Make the right people ask
A request is easier to judge when the plan is clear before they ask. On step 2 of the create flow, add:
- Conditions. Up to 10 short points guests must know, for example "Bring your own water" or "Beginners welcome".
- An age range. Every activity is for people aged 18 and above, and you can narrow the range, for example 25 to 40. The age that counts is the person's age on the day.
- Languages and a description, so people know what the plan is.
- Ladies only, if the activity is for ladies. Only members whose profile says Female can see who is going and join, and it cannot be changed after you create the activity.
When the activity is full
If you left the waiting list on, people can join the waiting list. On a by-request activity, you are told when a spot opens, and you choose who gets it. You are not forced to take the first person in line.
When by request is not what you want
- Open to all suits a casual plan where anyone is welcome. People are in straight away.
- Private suits a plan for people you invite. It is never listed, and each person you invite gets their own link.
You decide each time. Nothing starts as public by default.
Good to know
- A public activity can be opened from a link even without an account, and the page shows its details. Who is going is shown to signed-in members.
- If an activity shows a price, the host collects it directly. Sociogram is free for everyone.
- Sociogram is invite-only. A member invites your UAE mobile number, and you sign in with that number. You can look at the public activities first with Explore Sociogram.
Questions people ask
Can I approve every person who joins? Yes. Choose by request, and approve or decline each person.
What does the person see while they wait? They see "Requested" until you decide.
Are people told if I decline? Yes. They are told either way.
Can I remove someone later? Yes, from the going list, until the activity ends. They are told.
Can I make it invitation only? Yes. Choose private. Only the people you invite can open it.
Choose who comes
Sociogram is the invite-only network for real plans across the UAE. Ask a member to invite your mobile number, or look at what is on first.
